Evolving our relationships
Most of the hangs up we have as adults can be traced back to the programming we received as children. We learnt from everything and everyone around us, both through our direct experiences and by observation of the interactions between others. Judgements and beliefs were presented to us as facts by parents, grandparents, siblings, friends and teachers and we unquestioningly accepted them because we didn’t have the skills to question them. We established our sense of self-worth based on how others treated us and our personality traits developed to reflect this. Our perceptions and expectations of the world were formed.
Understanding that these issues were deeply embedded into your subconscious as a child is not an excuse to blame your past for your failings today or to hold resentment against those who have hurt you. Your parents, grandparents etc. did not consciously act to cause you damage but merely continued a cycle of unconscious behaviour based on their own experiences. You have a choice to allow this conditioning to continue to define you or to increase your self-awareness, recognise these unconscious influences and release them. Perhaps even more importantly you have a choice whether to repeat this cycle with your children or take responsibility for breaking it. ...read more.
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